Dear Thor,
What should I do if my roommate is trying to steal my boyfriend?
Thanks!
Hey T-Bird!
That sounds like quite the sticky situation you’ve found yourself in. What do you do when your roommate is trying to steal your boyfriend? If it were me, I’d find a new nest, but I understand that’s a little harder for humans to do.
First, we should establish a few details. How do you know that your roommate is interested in your boyfriend? Sometimes this can be chalked up to a misunderstanding and handled by setting a few boundaries. Communication is everything.
If your roommate really is trying to swoop in on your man, you need to weigh how close you are with your roommate. Is this a relationship that you value? If your roommate is someone you want in your life long-term, you need to constructively address your concerns as soon as possible— before someone does something they regret. If you don’t plan on talking to them again after your lease wraps up, you can get away with hanging out at his place for a few more months.
Most importantly, is your boyfriend shutting down their advances or egging it on? If your boyfriend truly respects his commitment to you, nothing your roommate does will affect your relationship. However, if you notice clear signs that he is flirting back, he might not be the one.
At the end of the day, the people who care about you would never cross that line. If your roommate is a good friend, they won’t “steal” your boyfriend, even if they want to. And if your boyfriend is a good partner, he wouldn’t be so easily stolen.
I hope this can all be cleared up, but if you’re free on Valentines Day, find me around campus 😉
Love,
Thor
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Author: Thor
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This article was originally published in the February 2025 issue of University Journal